I frequently get asked this question; “How do I please her in bed?”This question makes me realize that most men don’t enjoy sex. Most are doing it to please her. This is so wrong!
Now most men are going haywire trying to;
1. Elongate their penis
2. Taking terrible concoctions
3. Overdosing on performance pills etc.
Then I wonder, why are men now more than ever desperate in trying to please her?
Now listen.
Sex is a set of skills, just like anything else. Nobody is born a master at sex. Everyone needs to ‘practice’ to reach their sexual potential. Yet for some reason, men believe they have to be a sexual studs from the get-go. This is self-sabotaging behavior.
You don’t try to go 200 an hour the first time you get on a motorbike. So why are you trying to fuck like a stallion the first time you have sex? Build it up! Learn the ropes! Focus on gradual improvements!
Any man can achieve sexual mastery. Wanting too much too soon leads to performance anxiety. 99% of premature ejaculation & erectile dysfunction in young men is due to mental issues. We sabotage ourselves because we put too much pressure on ourselves. Relax instead. Give yourself the time to learn.
Men are too afraid they’ll disappoint her with their bed performance. This is bad thinking. The pressure isn’t on you to perform for her. You are both equally responsible for creating a pleasant experience. If she can’t make you feel at ease, that’s her shortcoming. Not yours and you know what to do.
View sex like any other skill you need to learn. Accept that you’ll make mistakes. Accept that you’ll have some bad performances on the path to success. Find out what your shortcomings are & take time to practice those things. Focus inwards during sex to see what your issues are.
If you tense up too much during sex, do breathing & relaxation exercises. If you have erectile disfunction, go work out more to get better blood flow. If you have premature ejaculation, do kegel & edging exercises. Do all these things anyhow. You will get better at sex.
Most importantly, make that mental switch. You are not some monkey that has to perform for her. Your enjoyment & mental state are just as important. A good bedpartner wants to grow together. A bad bed partner just wants to get off. Huge difference!
The final point can bonus the message. Avoid SLUTS! A good woman understands you need time to learn how to get better. She’ll most likely also still have to learn things.
The only women who don’t give you that time to learn are selfish sluts that only care about getting their ‘fix’. Avoid those kinds of women, they’re toxic. They’ll depress you, make you lose your self-esteem, and make you hate yourself.
