Broken Family Relations, Failing Nation

by | Jan 17, 2024 | family & relationships | 1 comment

It might seem like you’re effortless regarding your progress to some people despite all the hard work. You can’t convince them that you’re really trying your level best and neither should you buy into the idea of verbally explaining yourself because it’s a handful of people who listen and understand your situation when you talk to them. Those are probably your closest allies or family members though sometimes, you can fail to get anyone when it gets worse. 

Do you just let stress and depression take a toll on you? l suppose you don’t. Get used to the fact that society usually sets standards with an assumption that we’re all supposed to be following a certain procedure to succeed in life which is very unrealistic. These standards are imaginary nonetheless, they are seriously affecting many people out there. When you know that you’re trying to do the needful in the wake of chasing your dreams and things are simply not working out, do not lose yourself, have peace of mind, and remember that you’re not competing with anyone. Simply draw yourself back and think of all possible solutions. Probably something you haven’t tried before. Have you tried engaging your close relatives and family for advice at least or you’re also stereotyping that relatives are useless?

It’s quite absurd that we’re ignoring the power of unity in a family setting, youths nowadays walk away from their families earlier than expected for different reasons. They tend to cut themselves off from the rest of the family. You find someone hustling life on their own and they simply don’t care about what’s happening back home. No advice from relatives and it’s not like someone had a previous bad experience doing that, we’re rather trying to normalize this toxic trait simply because of what we hear from our colleagues. I’m not against hustling on your own because I have done that since I was 17 years but I always kept my close people, my family under the loop. They knew about my plans and constantly supported me emotionally, intellectually, socially, and physically whenever in need. Could this be one of the reasons why youth unemployment is still proving to be a very big challenge aside from the usual challenges? Well, much as there so many successful people out there who have done it on their own from scratch, everyone’s story is different, you might need a push from someone else. It’s important to keep it in mind. You need to prioritize establishing a good relationship with family members or friends that eventually become family.

Sustainable relationships are built, being bound by blood doesn’t mean you’re not supposed to make any effort to ensure a healthy relationship with family members. Truth is not all relatives are as mean as you assume but we’re just very poor at keeping relationships going especially in this era of social media. We waste much time bullying strangers on social media, getting lost, and excited in baseless hashtags while forgetting relatives who can be of great help to us. You spend much on data to surf the internet but can’t divert a quarter of your monthly expenditure on data to load a voice bundle and check on relatives who are most likely to be off social media. We simply don’t think beyond social media anymore. 

A family is the smallest unit of the government and once it fails, the entire country is likely to fail because if you can’t stand as a family and unite for a cause, how then can the government unite you for a general cause? Leadership is simply influencing a group of people towards achieving common goals and therefore with some visible elements of disunity, it becomes very hard for any leader to have a successful spell. Disunity starts from within our families and it’s then projected to the society. Take for example in Uganda, I’m quite certain that you’ve heard someone saying one of the following statements at least once; “Banyankole wish themselves well, Banyankole are united, Banyankole treat themselves like members of one single-family” , etc well, it’s true for the majority of the ones I associate myself with, I like it and the outcome is very positive, however, I wonder what’s stopping others from copying similar tactics. If we’re to get rid of poverty, we need to give one another a hand and we must start this initiative from our households. We must be here for all of us. 

Look out for your immediate relatives if possible just in case the family is torn apart, leadership is lacking in our households, someone who can bring about unity and influence others towards development. It takes only one person to offer themselves up for the role. That person could be you who’s reading this today onwards if we’re to eradicate poverty from our societies. We Must Unite Against It.

A united family is more likely to overcome poverty because they will collectively devise measures to overcome the big problem, they will uplift one another, they will source out opportunities for those that lack them, can easily collectively raise up start-up capital if it’s what’s needed for people to keep moving. Perhaps, you haven’t thought about this.

We have another challenge regarding mentorship, there’s a huge gap between younger and older people.Taking a close look at the Twitter feed, I realized that it’s dominated by young people majority of whom haven’t started taking life seriously. A few elderly users are less active partly because the young ones are very toxic(savage), uninspired, and not willing to listen to anyone. You would expect someone below 30 to be very careful with what they feed their mind because those are the best years to make the future. One needs to seek mentorship and create sustainable relationships rather than being overtaken by likes on social media. All that reflects back on where we come from and how we are ushered into the bigger world when we’re unfinished products. We need to normalize seeking knowledge from elders especially relatives or else we’re risking it all.  

“Poverty needs an agenda in which we must be wiser, united, proactive, ready to sacrifice some happiness for a few years(spending too much on none essentials like clubbing, alcohol, birthday parties, etc which can wait) and determined to eradicate it from South of the Sahara.” Unknown.

1 Comment

  1. Okulu Mike
    Okulu Mike on August 5, 2021 at 12:48 pm

    “A united family is more likely to overcome poverty because they will collectively devise measures to overcome the big problem, they will uplift one another, they will source out opportunities for those that lack them, can easily collectively raise up start-up capital if it’s what’s needed for people to keep moving”

    No Cap!!

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